Jurisdiction to Love
As a woman, I have deluded myself into believing that I can change anyone I want to—like a fairy godmother with a restless wrist and a sparkly wand, turning pumpkins into carriages and mice to noble steeds. I have carried this belief from dating, into my friendships, into family, into work, into teams, into almost every aspect of my life. If you’re a woman, maybe you have too?
So, do people really change? Of course they do. I, myself am constantly changing everyday! My 2016 self wouldn’t even recognize me. Hey, girl! *Smacks lips*
I guess the question is, is it my job to change people? And who bestowed this responsibility on me. I guess women just have this natural propensity for identifying an ideal state of things and willing their loved ones in that chosen way.
*Shrug* What can we say?
I have realized though that it’s not my job to change people.
It’s my job to love them.
It’s my job to correct them, if it’s within my jurisdiction, but it’s always my jurisdiction to love.
I like that.
Why didn’t anyone tell me this before? Do men do this too—try to change people?
P.s Good luck if you’re trying to change someone you’re dating and Godspeed if your working on changing a spouse.
*Laughing in Cantonese*