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What's Wrong with Turning 30?

What's Wrong with Turning 30?

I recently turned 28.  

Gasp! I wrote out my age! Why is age such a sensitive topic? A person would ask, 'How old are you?' Suddenly things on our bodies get tight and our breath gets cut in half, we start hyperventilating, our eyes dart around the room. After reluctantly answering the question, the person asking immediately starts calculating the difference, mean and standard deviation of their age from ours! Lol!

I always thought I had embraced my age until the eve of 26. 25 was such a fun age and I especially loved the '5' at the rear but with 26, 30  seemed nearer, and with the scary 30, you are so much closer to 50!

30, the age where your mid-rif won't let you be great and wear a crop top. By the way, who decided to reach into the 80's and bring back crop tops.....*side-eye* 30, the scariest age, even scarier than 40. I think by 40, you've made your peace with life, the elements and the wheel had been handed over to God, the Son. 

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I've decided to to hit the ground running with 30; by making a pre-30/ 30th birthday bucket list. If you are terrified of hitting 30, maybe you should too!

I would have written a list of to-do's before 30 here, but mine is pretty personalized and not everyone wants to go whale-watching, or fly to Rio or dye their hair red. Plus the jury is still out on the red hair.

One of the best ways to feel fulfilled every birthday, and even everyday, is to have achievable goals listed and achieving those goals through actionable steps. It's crazy but it's the way humans are wired. Fulfillment comes with achievements, which is why Maslow's hierarchy of needs, shows the several levels of the needs of man and right at the top is self-actualization. Man needs self-actualization!

According to Maslow, self-actualization is the desire for accomplishment; to be everything a person can be; to achieve all things within one's ability and sometimes beyond. Man's most apparent need is to be able to strive and obtain, which when partnered with hard work and the grace of God, is pretty close to perfect! 

If you write out goals before 30, make concrete plans to achieve them. Even if by 30 you aren't quite there, you'd be on track and 30 will fly right by.  You wouldn't  even notice.

Something tells me Mark Zuckerberg wasn't scared of 30. Oh, Shut up, Something!

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If you are 30 and above, of course you can write a list too! If not YOU then WHO?! Also remember to tell us under-30's what to expect. Are you spooked by 30? Do you have a pre/post 30 bucket list? 

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